About Brendah

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My calling as a Health coach, Fitness and wellness coach is to help people like you who are looking to discover their big ‘Why’ and live their lives with intention and fulfillment toward their health and fitness.

And I’m driven by the challenges in my own story of health, fitness and wellness to ensure I can bring clarity and purpose to my clients’ lives.

That was such a good meeting! Chalk up another client for me!

And the fact that I signed her in less time than I initially anticipated put me in the mood for a small celebration.

It’s really important that you celebrate accomplishments and milestones. It keeps you looking forward to the next. As a Health coach

I decided to treat myself to an early lunch. Maybe seared salmon with maple syrup sitting atop a bed of greens and a glass of Bollinger! Mmm! My tummy suddenly rumbled in anticipation.

I headed to my favourite restaurant, Carluccio and I was quickly escorted to my preferred seat by the window and ordered. As I was checking my phone for my next meeting, I couldn’t help but overhear the conversation from the next table.

By the way they’re dressed and the fact that they’re all able to carry on a casual conversation with each other while glued to their respective smartphones, I can immediately tell these are young professionals. Probably studied at the nearby university.

“I can’t wait for the degree results to come out. My Pop promised to buy me a new iPhone if I get a 1st class degree or at least score 2:1.” But what I really want is for him to buy me a flat that we can share together instead of renting, seeing as it’s taking too long to find our first permanent jobs.

“Good for you! I’ve been dying for a replacement laptop myself. Too bad I don’t have monied parents like you.”

I can’t help but smile as I looked back at my own experiences growing up.

I grew up in a remote African village with no running water or sanitation. We didn’t have electricity either. I know what genuine poverty looks like – and it isn’t not having the latest gadgets! But what we lacked in material things, we made up for in determination and hard work. I learned self-reliance at an early age. My parents brought me and my 3 sisters up valuing gratitude, respect and consideration of others, and the love for education and self-development. Hard as life was for my family during those times, we were happy and living peacefully. We were content in what few belongings we had.

We lived a simple but fulfilled life hopeful in the promise of a better future if we just dreamed big and worked hard.

And it paid off!

I was able to get a college education and the first chance I got, I migrated to the United Kingdom in search for greener pastures. 

It was not easy. I was a black African naive young woman in a foreign land. But that did not dissuade me. Whatever adversity that came my way, I used as fuel for my perseverance. Combined with my familiarity for hard work, I began my long and hard-fought ascent in the corporate world.

I made it! I couldn’t be prouder of myself.

Within a few years, I was funding the education of my sisters and their children. We were finally making all our dreams as a small family come true.

But everything came crashing down with the sudden and sad deaths of my parents and 2 sisters within a short period of time. Devastated, I was left to fend for and raise my youngest sister along with the children of my other sisters.

I couldn’t help but push back tears at the memory as I took a sip of my champagne.

I remember crying rivers of tears. Why would this happen just as we’re on the verge of seeing the fruits of all our hard work? Was everything I did for nothing? Was all my hard work for nothing?

Good thing my parents, despite not having left us any worldly treasures, taught us the value of resilience and self-reliance. So despite the heartbreak, I brushed my tears aside and continued working on my dreams. I knew in my heart that if I did this, I will be honoring the memory of my family.

I was determined to succeed even more.

But fate had other plans.

Within a year of losing most of my family, I was dealt another earth-shattering blow.

I failed to hold back a single tear from rolling down my cheeks and that momentarily broke my reverie. A few tables away sat a happy looking couple. The man was holding the lady’s hand and was whispering something in her ear. It must have been something naughty because she tried to hold back her laughter while playfully slapping his shoulder. I forced myself to look away as the memories came rushing like a flood.

I was seeing someone then. He was my soulmate. With him, I found strength, hope, and love. He was my anchor and I was his inspiration. We’ve been together for 10 years already and we were finally making plans to get married. 

But those plans never came to reality.

He died and left me with a large gaping hole in my chest where my heart used to be.

I thought my world was going to end.

But I was not built to give in to misfortune.

I allowed myself a healthy time to grieve but then I threw myself to my work. My immediate plan was to fill whatever emptiness I was feeling with as much work as I could. I believed my heart would heal in time. And while I’m waiting for that time, I might as well increase the size of my bank account.

I began working 60 to 80-hour weeks to gain fitness. I was tireless and unstoppable. 

What I didn’t realize at the time was that in my quest to replace what I lost with the rewards of my career, I was practically killing myself. I wasn’t eating right. I barely had time to sleep, much less exercise. I gained weight as quickly as I closed business deals.

I would have worked myself to death had I not received a reality check 6 months after my partner passed away.

I was diagnosed with osteoarthritis. And it was so bad that within weeks I required a total knee replacement.

And it did not end there.

The knee replacement was a total failure! I ended up in a worse situation than before I had the operation. I developed flexion deformity and was told I would never walk again.

My doctors said I will have to use a wheelchair for the rest of my life. But stubborn as I was, I asked if there’s a possibility of using crutches instead. They said with my weight, using crutches may cause even more damage.

I brushed their warnings aside and started using crutches. And I did so for the next 6 years.

I was able to adjust quickly to my new normal. In no time, I was darting in and out of client meetings again despite my disability. I thought, “It’s my body that’s broken. Not my mind. Not my spirit.” And so I slowly slipped back into my old workhorse self.

It was during a holiday of a lifetime in Hongkong that my biggest turnaround moment came.

There I was, a differently-abled woman all alone in a foreign country halfway around the world and I just developed a severe case of pneumonia.

I finished the last of my salad and signaled the waiter for another glass of wine as I took a deep breath and sighed at the memory.

I honestly thought I was going to die all alone in a foreign country. Everyone I loved, my sister Shillah, my nieces and nephews, my friends and colleagues, all the people who mattered to me were all on the other side of the world, while I gasped for air feeling as though each lungful was my last.

Each breath was a battle.

I literally had to force myself to relax so I can soak up as much oxygen as I can. 

I was fortunate enough to have survived that ordeal. I came back to the UK. I went back to work and my career. But something changed.Somewhere deep inside my heart, a voice was asking me a question. At first I dismissed it. But the harder I tried to ignore it, the more insistent the voice became.

“What are you doing with your life?”

I tried to drown the voice out with work. I started going back to my default setting of literally working myself to the grave.

It took me a full 2 years before I finally succumbed to it.

Thus began my journey to my own soul.

I found an old copy of the Law of Attraction that was given to me as a gift by my late soulmate many years before. I started reading it. It was then that I understood what that voice was asking.

“What are you doing with your life?”

I was given so much. I started out with almost nothing but I ended up with so much. Why? It was because I was meant for something more than just work and career. I knew the feeling of having literally just the clothes on my back. And now that I have so much, I need to reach out to everyone else who is currently where I was and tell them, “IT’S POSSIBLE!”

I finished the Law of Attraction filled with a new passion and a new purpose.

I started with myself. I set out to heal myself with mindset work. Within 6 months, I got rid of one crutch. Within 12 months, I was jogging combined with power walking with the support of my one remaining crutch.

I was unstoppable!

After I gained enough mobility, I continued working on my body. I power walked. I started eating right. I drank plenty of water. I knew that if I was to fulfill my new mission, I need to be in my best shape. I lost weight and for the first time in years, I felt and looked young and energized.

Then came the big challenge.

I smiled to myself as I remembered how I hated running back in college. As I signaled for my check, I thought about how I worked to get myself excused from running while I was at boarding school, and volunteered instead to help establish a library.

In 2017, much to the horror of my friends and my doctors, I participated in the Ealing-London Half Marathon. My goal was simply to finish it. I did finish in 3 hours 20 minutes. I was so happy with my achievement especially since hundreds of men and women with no mobility problems and who were much younger than I failed to complete the course.

I did not stop there.

After 6 months, I ran my first full marathon.

I completed it without using my crutches.

The waiter had just returned my check with my change. I left a tip and gathered my things. I had another client meeting in 15 minutes and I can’t be late.

As I walked away, 3 words kept echoing in my head. 3 words that have become my mantra. 3 words that have helped me guide my extended family in their own journey to success. The same 3 words that have allowed me to help my countless clients.

IT IS POSSIBLE!

Now, let’s go through your journey together.

If you’re ready for change and need a coach, don’t delay. Schedule a complimentary 15-minute laser call with me now to get clarity on the steps you need to take! Your well-being is my ultimate goal